About the Sexxxy Unicorn

As a fashion designer for over 25 years, I encountered numerous women that looked great on the surface, but they shared that they did not love themselves or their bodies. I had to overcome body shaming and many other challenges that shaped me into the confident person I am today, it was not easy. Although I thought I loved myself, one day I realized how depleted I was from putting everyone first and giving the best parts of myself away. I did not have anything left for myself. They say, “You can’t pour from an empty cup.” Well, I am proof that you can pour from that cup and then give the whole cup away. I found myself at a point that I was parched with nothing to drink. I worked in the field of HIV/ STD treatment and prevention for over six years. During the pandemic, I noticed my lack of effort to dress nicely or even fix myself up. From talking to women in my network I realized it wasn’t just me. I remembered that I could be sexy without having sex and as a woman I have a need to connect to my feminine energy. I am worthy of love and worthy to be loved. It is an inside job. In the words of the late, great
​Whitney Houston …….
“Because the greatest love of all
Is happening to me
I found the greatest love of all
Inside of me
The greatest love of all
Is easy to achieve
Learning to love yourself
It is the greatest love of all.”
Through my own journey of self-love and self-discovery I would like to share this message of worthiness to women that need to hear it because “Sexy is a state of mind, you can learn to love your sexy side.”

Sonya Z. Phillips
The Sexxxy Unicorn